Mike, I agree with what you have found. I have used dish soap to clean skillets & COs for years with no damage to the seasoning or patina, just spray/coat lightly when dry and they are ready for the next meal.
As for initial seasoning, I usually use the BBG outside and heat above 500 till the piece stops smoking, apply another coat and reheat. Sometines 10-12 times for my COs. With this methould I have had no problem with acidic foods like spagettie sause destroying the seasoning.
Have not tried grape oil, just crisco, canola oil, and/or pam.