Hi Carolyn,
I wonder why you're having so much trouble with the flash rust? Maybe you are in a very humid place. Rust doesn't form on bare iron below 65% humidity (but it's near 100% at the surface of the iron when you're drying it.) Maybe your best bet is the oil wipe method many have described above to physically rub the flash rust off. I've done that a few times too and I find paper towels are better than cloth for this because they are 'scratchier'.
I just tried Greg Stahl's new PAM method on several pieces and it worked really well. I use the Lye followed by vinegar method with cold water rinse (I most often use a worn green scotchbrite pad to clean off the last bits of residue) and cloth dry. I notice that the surface has a 'dusty' look and typically shine it up with a drill and wirebrush, but this time I tried just washing them in soapy water and SOS, rinsing well in cold water and cloth drying again. Into the 250 oven to heat up, spray with PAM and wipe of excess, then 250 for an hour, followed by a hot at 350 for another hour. This is so much easier than using Crisco, has less odor, and the seasoning looks really good. The true test was in the cooking and once again I was amazed. These pans performed just as well as any I have ever seasoned.
Don't get discouraged - once you find something that works, and I'm sure you will, you'll be good to go. In the meantime, you can't ruin your CI trying different things.